For me and my now wife, we didn’t want to ruin the day by writing out speeches together. But we did think that it would be a good idea to have a site down and figure out the direction we wanted our wedding speeches to go in so as not to be too far apart.

Who Says What?

When it comes to any most kinds of speeches, whether the groom wedding speech or the father of groom speech, it can really help to get your stories straight and make sure that each speech isn’t repeating the others. This is why discussing bride and groom speeches ideas with your future wife is a good idea.

Not all bride and grooms do their speeches separately. Maybe only one of you is doing a speech, or perhaps you want to address your guests together! If you haven’t decided then have a good discussion before moving onto the next steps but don’t leave it too late.

The Perfect Speeches

Once you’ve decided it can be a good idea to talk to your future bride and ask whether she’s preparing a bride speech. The chances are that you will both have a few ideas of the same, like telling stories of how you met and what you’ve done since getting together.

One option is to agree on covering different topics. One other option is to both cover the story of how you got together – but from different each point of view. This can make for exciting, even very funny, yet still excellent groom speeches that your guests will just love!

Finding a bride and groom speech together isn’t always done, but I think sharing some ideas and still trying to keep  the speeches private until your wedding can be really great. Better still, check out some speech examples to really help your speech be what you want it to be!

My first piece of advice would be please don’t make the same mistakes I did. Plan as far ahead as possible if you can and make your life easier – if only a little!

When I first started thinking about groom speeches it seemed a really challenging and hard task to complete. Like it’s not enough that you have to stand up in front of all those people and make the vows only to have to stand up again and make a biog speech, when everyone is looking at you it can very nerve-wracking, Especially if you’re not used to public speaking!

As the big day got closer and closer I tried to think of a charming, inspirational and funny groom wedding speech and it just wasn’t possible. After many hours of trying and throwing away scraps of paper  what  I eventually decided to do was to just sit down by myself and write some of the thoughts that came into my head.

Now, you have to believe me when I say that there are better ways to plan groom speeches, but this was great for kick starting my ideas and getting something useful down on paper.

At first I found it difficult, but when I started using speech prompts and some guides I quickly started to jot down bits of information about me and my future bride. Where we first met, how long we’d been together, some of our best and most memorable moments – things like that. It really helped me to put into words a  story of our time together and everything we had been through to get where we are today.

At this stage I think it’s probably best not to worry too much about the order or the content of what you’re writing down, or even the funny wedding speech jokes. The biggest stumbling block to getting the perfect grooms wedding speech is never starting to put pen to paper! So by getting down my thoughts I was already over the first but largest hurdle for my groom speeches.

Making Your Bride Happy

The absolute worst thing you could do is to talk about previous girlfriends. This may seem quite obvious but from what I’ve seen there are people that actually do this! Even if you’re doing it with the intention of talking your new wife up, if she’s anything like mine is she will not appreciate it one little bot – especially on the most important day of the rest of her life!

You should always speak favourably of your bride – at all times! Though it may seem funny to you, to add a small joke believe me this is not the right time or place for it. In my groom speech I stuck to what I knew my new wife wanted me to say, and it worked a treat!

Alcohol

Even if you are the most prepared you could possibly be for your groom speeches, and I’m sure that’ll be better than I was, your worst enemy could be alcohol. This has the potential to bring anyone down, alcohol can make you say the wrong thing when you least expect it. I was totally aware of this and decided to hold off much drinking – at least until the speech was over that is and I’m glad I did!

A Few Other Tips

One thing that made the thought of groom speeches kind of stressful to me was the fact I didn’t plan far enough ahead. Not planning ahead means being a lot less in control of what you are going to say. Luckily for you there are now plenty of sources to help online for those who want even a funny groom wedding speech that doesn’t offend anyone (very important).

Lastly I want to say no matter how well you say things, going on and on for far too long isn’t going to go down well with your party. Try to work on your speech so it doesn’t take an hour to finish!